Inspiration from sight

For a period I was so frustrated trying to figure out what to write about. I even set aside my book writing just because I had way too much going on to focus. My husband and I just recently returned home from a fantastic vacation in Montana and Wyoming. Just looking at things, the sights, the sounds smashed my stress and now I can think clearly.
I am one that is ALWAYS up for a road trip..whether it is somewhere local, a few hours away, or thousands of miles, travel is key to my inspiration. I highly recommend it if you can..

Karma, the worst comeback ever...

In order for Karma to exist there must be a little human action called in, who goes by the name, judgement, which we all know many people are good at..
Karma is a universal belief, and since when does the universe pass judgement? I don't believe it can since it is not human..
We humans use the word Karma whenever we are mad at people.. Its our favorite comeback when we really just have nothing else to say.. What goes around comes around right? Well that is a judgement..isn't judgement of others wrong? Who are you to decide who has done wrong to deserve to be slapped in the face? Just because feelings are hurt doesn't make you the judge, jury, and executioner. There is nothing in the world that is calculating our behavior and guarenteeing that Karma will get us. I don't wanna hear God either.. WE are responsible for our actions. When we make mistakes we pay for them.. When we hurt someone, there is consequences, it is called SCIENCE, duh! It is the law of human action or Praxeology. You cant just call out, Karma and feel like you have put someone in their place. Bad and good happen to ALL people. Just because you believe you are always good and doing right, doesn't mean you are exempt from the bad karma. We are humans, we do good and dumb things all the time. Yelling "karma will get you" is just going to make karma boomerang you right upside your head so look out!

Stay Lovely

Pretending to be tough

I know I may by now be sounding like a broken record.. Or like I am trying to get a point across to someone, it is because I am doing all of that. If you feel like you need to insult someone continuously in order to make yourself look or sound good, you may be getting positive results now but it will all backfire eventually.
I say what I need to say. The reason I am now doing it here is because I am sick of getting fake threats when I say it to them.. I am sure many of you deal with this. The only way to fix it is to stand up for yourself. If you hide behind others with desperation for attention and approval you are making nothing but a joke out of yourself. People who do this are of low character and are generally afraid to directly say anything to anyone. If you have a problem with someone, shouldn't you speak with THEM, and not everyone else? I know its hard.. I try to but it usually end up turning into the other person calling names and saying you need therapy then going behind your back to loved ones claiming you arecrazy.. This my dear friends, is the definition of a jealous obsessive person who cannot accept the slightest amount of crtitism without playing the infant aged blame game. 
Yes I am being a hypocrit right now, but I need to make a point and unfortunately this is the easiest way. I am also extending a little advise ontop of my rant. If you hide behind people acting like you are trying to help people but are actually attacking someone, then YOU my friend need to man up! You know who you are and if you need me to once again tell you personally, I would be glad to but if you cannot learn to shut up and listen and learn and automatically start with the threats and name calling, then it will be over. The game has to stop now!

Being your best, no matter what

Why the constant drama?

R-E-S-P-E-C-T..

Do you want to be respected? Of course you do. If you say no then you're full of it. I used to sit and say, I don't care what anyone thinks about me.. Well my dear friends, that was a LIE. People say, you shouldn't care, but you should to an extent. Earning respect from others requires some form of caring what others think. Duh! Having respect and appreciation for others is what makes good character. For those that walk all over and use people to get things in life, they don't deserve respect, they dont deserve appreciation. They deserve pity. For some reason they get it because it is the guilt they instill in others that makes people give to them. All I can say to people like that is, Karma is a bitch.

Live, Dream, Imagine

I am a dreamer... I spend a lot of my days being creative and thinking. As a writer it makes the best stories whether they are real or make believe. The key is to never attack someone with your imagination. Let your mind create happy peaceful thoughts and you will always smile!

To be successful

Success can be used in many different situations.. Whether it is used in recovery, work, family, life.. It all has a different meaning. In order to achieve it you have to believe in it!

Go where the heart wants

For the last few days I have been speaking with a man in London about his issues and depression. His wife of 9 years tells him to leave all the time.. She refuses to be intimate with him, she refuses to sleep in the same bed with him. He has the same feelings, just so much hatred between the two is heartbreaking. The glue that holds them is they have a 3 year old son for which he loves and adores dearly. He is terrified to not see his boy everyday, therefore he fights to stay. Although he is sad and has terrible self esteem, he stays for the boy.
I tell him over and over, that he has to do what the heart desires, but he must also consider himself. It is not a selfish thing to do. Your health depends on it. I tell him what difficulties will lay ahead with moving out of their home and that I understand how difficult it is to lose your children and start over. Although it is hard and I miss them everyday, my deathly anger and depression is gone. I marked out the factor that was destroying me, my ex.
You cannot force yourself in an unhappy life for the sake of anyone. You will never lose your kids forever, it will be hard but we as humans adapt and grow. It hurts but depression and pain hurt them too. Live, love, and be!

Laughter makes the soul feel good

The successful are dreamers

Why shouldn't YOU be happy?

Don't screw with your life

Do you think taking handouts and partying is going to make a happy life? Maybe for a short time but eventually we all have to grow up. There is a point when you have to stop expecting everyone to pay your way while you reap the benefits. Eventually you will have to get a job, go to work everyday, pay your own bills, and live your life. Living a carefree life is great if YOU have earned It ..not let someone else earn it for you and work hard while you sit and smile like an idiot bragging about how good you have it. Life requires dedication, skill, and a good ambition that works. To truly be dealt a full healthy life you have to make it for yourself. Stop expecting it to be served on a platter...

The direction of happiness

Depression is real

In light of the passing of Mr. Robin Williams I would like to reflect on the disease of depression. For anyone who takes this lightly let me tell you, it is not a joke or just something you can just brush off. Depression is deadly. Depression is painful and damaging. I have been stricken with the disease and wanted to die because of it. I thought I had no one, I was always ignored and looked down upon because of the way I acted. Many people hurt those who are depressed because they don't understand. Just because someone looks nice and smiles doesn't mean they aren't depressed. It is an inward demon that tortures until it consumes. If you are depressed, don't ignore it, please talk to someone.

I protect my assets, do you?

For those who interfere constantly, make passive snide remarks about you, and constantly blame YOU for their losses, then it only means they are so pissed off at you because you have what they want. Don't be upset. You should feel good knowing you have something amazing.

A Lesson Learned

Give someone a compliment

Keep it up!

The automatic blame game

Automatically accusing people of having mental problems for picking on you is wrong. Sure, bullying is WRONG! But just assuming they have problems is your own passive way of bullying them. Some people DO have issues but then there are those who are just mean natured. It doesn't mean they need help.
If what people say bothers you so much to the point that you spend time pointing fingers and accusing then you also may be the one with issues that need sorting. But for those who falsely accuse for their own benefits are the ones with the real problem.
Don't accuse people. Don't go behind their back and tell everyone else your false information because it makes you look BAD. Then you are doing more damage than you think.

Stop with the labels already

What are your qualifications? Do you claim to be more than what you are? Somr experience is necessary but it takes a lot of practice and work to be considered an expert in your field. Hard work and honest value is key. If you do it for the title then you don't deserve the title. As a writer and blogger I see many like me who claim to be famous in the same field, claim to be counsellors, and experts with little experience. Facebook likes and Twitter followers in high numbers don't make you an expert. Gain knowledge and grow.

Stop accusing

Working in the blogging industry you end up with someone who wants to accuse you of stealing their work or someone who wants to bring you down and usually jealousy is the culprit. Some even take it to the level of making up accusations and having fake proof. It is when they go to people you know and tell them you are jealous of them and that you

are the one who has issues, just makes you look even more ignorant.

Curing the blues

I don't like to cry in front of anyone.  Who does? There are things in life that are not always in our control that cause pain and anger, that make us sad for periods of time. In public I cover them up, but when I am alone they flood out of me uncontrollably. I take a moment to relive and revive and push on because that is all we can do.. is push on.